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So here are some interesting relationship-related data things I’ve been finding around the web. I suspect you might find this interesting, and I’d be curious to hear your take on it.

First the pretty non-scientific from BoingBoing and Google

Using Google to learn what boyfriends and girlfriends want from each other Boing Boing.

Then the more scientific from the surprisingly compelling blog of okCupid

The takeaway here is that although race shouldn’t matter in messaging, it does. A lot.

via Your Race Affects Whether People Write You Back « OkTrends.

And consider the following on attractiveness and message replies

As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys’ pursuing the all-but-unattainable. But with the basic ratings so out-of-whack, the two curves together suggest some strange possibilities for the female thought process, the most salient of which is that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males aren’t good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway.

Your Looks and Your Inbox « OkTrends.

Anne Braden by Flobots

So here are some questions for discussion that most of my readers can relate to-

How do you deal when people you love and respect stand in opposition to you on issues that you are passionate about (like racism for example)?

Are you able to keep loving and being in relationship with them as you would before in spite of the difference?

Do you compartmentalize, and only share with those you love those parts that will not cause conflicts?

Do you limit your activism on this issue to preserve your relationship?

Share your thoughts, questions, stories, encouragement and discouragement in the comments. I know for some people this is a painful thing, and for others they’ve found it easy.  Comment below.

* Also check out the Flobots activism site