Via: The Suburban Jesus Hates Me
I used to get paid by large churches to tell their kids all about Jesus, get them into Bible studies and take them on mission trips- which I choose to be in the inner cities of Chicago and Boston, not the beach. The basic assignment was actually to keep these kids out of drugs, jail and pregnancy so they could go to college, make lots of money and pursue the lifestyles of rich Americans while attending large prosperous megachurches.
I figured this out early on, but I kept telling myself it wasn’t the case. I thought that if one of those kids becomes a serious Jesus revolutionary, going among the poor, giving up the suburban lifestyle, my churches would have applauded.
Then, a few years ago, a church kid from Minnesota came to talk to me. She’d been out of college for a few years, had come to Appalachia to teach English, then taught and coached at our school for a while, after which she took off for Africa for a couple of years. She brought me a letter from her parents where they told her what they thought about her life.
Note: These parents were card carrying suburban American Christians in church. “Nice sermon, pastor.” “Oh the music was lovely today.” “We so enjoyed the youth leading worship today.” All that.
In this letter, the parents honestly said what they thought of this girl. They thought she was nuts. The called all the ministries she worked for abusive, slave labor operations. They begged her to come home, take her college degree into the city and make some money, get a house in the suburbs and find a husband with wealth and security.
I’m very glad to say that my parents were never like that. I grew up in a relatively wealthy family, at least wealthier than most of the people who were around me. My father runs the family business that my grandfather started and my father helped to build. He worked long hours and worked hard. Our family was able to afford and enjoy somethings that were unusual for the average rural Jamiacan and I am grateful for that.
They’ve always wanted me to work hard, prepare, and think about the future. To study so that I can get a good job and support my family. To be a part of the family business. To have enough money to retire
And yet with all of that, my parents always supported me whenever I made a step to follow my calling to help others. When I paid for my mission trip to Guatemala instead of getting a paying intership, they supported me. When I decided to join InterVarsity staff they did as well. They both are happy for me and support me in going to seminary. When I wanted to work in the non-profit world instead of in the corporate world they did too.
It goes deeper than that. I continue to learn how my parents used, and continued to use their privilege to help people around them. How running the company was as much about providing jobs for folks in the community as it was about making money. How they directly helped several people that I know of the best they could, and probably more that I don’t know of. They were believers in helping people out in a way that “the right hand doesn’t know what the left had was doing”. They led wonderfully integrative lives that I right now don’t even know if I can aspire to.
So I guess this post has two purposes. One is to simply share with the world my gratitude for the types of parents I grew up with. And also to say that there exists a different type of parents than portrayed in the clip above. And that even in relative affluence, one can truly and completely give it up to God for His use.
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